ReMindEd   •   Feb 19, 2017

“I am tired of trying to hold things together that cannot be held. Trying to control what cannot be controlled. I am tired of denying myself what I want for fear of breaking things I cannot fix. They will break no matter what we do.” —Erin Morgenstern, The Night Circus

I came across this earlier in the week and it has stuck with me. Go ahead, re-read it.

Interesting hey. My initial reaction, was in reference to the breaking. Hence my meme at the top of this post. And the line …’they will break no matter what we do’. 

It speaks to me of not allowing fear to hold us back from stepping out, as it often does, for fear of failure, of making a mistake, of breaking something. Maybe even the fear of breaking ourselves.

Let me just say, we are not oranges. Once we are broken open, that’s not the end of the story. Like an orange. For an orange, once opened, it can’t be put back together. We, on the other hand, can. Most certainly can! We are not an orange!

Nor are we glass that shatters when dropped. Nor are we sand that falls away through the cracks between our fingers. Nor are we water that once poured out can’t be put back in.

You are strong. You are stronger than you think. You are stronger than your thoughts. You are stronger than what happened to you. You can get through this. You are still here, getting through this.

And you can be completely put back together. Completely. And not just put back together, but completely restored. Completely. As if it never happened. In walking through the fire…through…and out the other side of it. With no scent of smoke remaining.

Freedom.

Freed.

Free.

And oh so strong. What beauty there is in strength. Within your story. The story that is not yet over. You are still here. Keep writing. This chapter can end. Turn the page. Write a new chapter.

Things that are broken can be fixed. So don’t fear the breaking.

There is life after the breaking. After the breaking comes healing, after healing, restoration. 

And it’s okay to need to be held for a while. Surround yourself with support, with those that see you, that love you.

It’s okay to need to be held.

Find a truth that holds steadfast regardless of the breaking. Because, although you are stronger than you think, the breaking still happens. Sometimes by consequence of our choice, sometimes by consequence of someone else’s choice, or sometimes, a random happening where no blame can be placed anywhere. Regardless, don’t place blame. Learn what can be learnt, acknowledge the breaking, then start walking through the breaking, into restoration. 

Be held by a steadfast truth.

Find your true. Be held through.

The breaking only lasts for a season. You will get through this.

#dothrough

Together towards truth,

Sal